Laws of Attraction

Have you ever asked yourself why you're in love with this particular person? 
An anthropologist and writer, Helen Fisher,  says that there's all kinds of reasons that you fall in love with one person rather than another. Timing is important. Proximity is important. Mystery is important. You fall in love with somebody who's somewhat mysterious, in part because mystery elevates dopamine in the brain, probably pushes you over that threshold to fall in love. You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your "love map," an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems. And that's what I'm now contributing to this.

It's true, we fall in love with people who resemble us. We have to have the same tastes and views, same interests and goals. However, the laws of attraction between men and women are not so easy. Only few couples live happily every after. Those who felt mutual attraction and love. These couples are stable and experience deep emotional attachment throughout the whole life.

As for the others? The majority of people do not end up with the right person. They feel attracted to someone unattainable, someone who doesn't respond to their feelings. It is very common, indeed, to see couples where one is trying to reach out for the other.

We all have experienced this feeling. We all had a school sweetheart who never looked our way and still we felt madly in love with him. Some of us still experience this feeling to a partner, even a spouse.
The reason for this unreasonable attraction may be our brain, that sees this person as a perfect partner.

There is no good explanation to why you choose a person who doesn't love you back. This person can be undeserving and below your own level. This person can humiliate you in public and laugh at you, but this will not stop you from loving him.

But in the years I have developed my personal idea on the subject. If you love someone and he doesn't love you back, he is not worth your time and energy. You probably like the idea of possessing this person, so unattainable and yet undeserving. Probably it is your ego, your primitive nature trying to conquer a new territory. Try not to rush. Stop and wait. Wait for the right one to come.